Be The Example

via Daily Prompt: Winsome

Every day we fight or struggle to fit in, we want to maintain an image of “cool” or “hip”. It’s hard to be the outsider, hard to be alone and even harder to be the one that people laugh at. As I venture down the road of self discovery and realizing the plans that God has in store for me, I grow more comfortable and worry less about those things.

We started this program at our church a few months ago called Winsome Witnessing, that’s what prompted me to join in on the daily prompt. Basically it’s about building a successful witnessing program in your church, whether it be by being welcoming to visitors, being a friendly neighbor or knocking on doors to meet new people. Just offering the support and love that people need, the kind of love that doesn’t require wearing the cool new gear to be apart of.

The Introvert Me

Two months ago, I was taken completely out of my element. It’s actually kind of funny, I believe being a waitress has prepared me for more in life than I give credit. At 15 years old (maybe younger than that even) I was the girl who was mean, because I was on the defense, being called dog eyes for years takes its toll on a girl. I wasn’t the one to reach out and make friends easily because being hurt is tough. It took a lot of courage at a couple years older, to walk up to a group of people at the front door of Shari’s, as a little hostess, to ask how many people were in their group and then seat them at their table that first time. Then evolving into a waitress who was able to sell enough pies to earn Christmas day off with my family.  Crazy to believe that was 17 years ago. I’m still that girl who struggles saying hello to people in a social setting, but you know what I’ve realized, when it comes to work, I can do anything. When I am working for God and “winsome witnessing,” it’s like I’ve got this courage I don’t have when I’m alone.

Back to 2 months ago, I was put in the position to go knocking on doors, not solely for religious purposes, but to survey our neighborhood. I was surprised by the ease I had in my heart, I wasn’t anxious, not even one bit. I was actually excited! We were out trying to find ways to help the neighbors, whether it be through cooking classes, quit smoking help, depression and anxiety recovery, etc.

Preparation is Key

In 2015, before my door to door adventure, I became a Beachbody Coach. Basically you share your health journey by being open and vulnerable, and you reach out to people to see if they need help changing their lives for the better also. That was hard for me, hard to open up and hard to reach out to people and try to sell them something, even if it was something I truly believe in. It prepared me to get out of my comfort zone and try new things. One thing I learned, is to Be The Example. If you aren’t practicing what you preach, why would anyone want to jump on your boat? And if you aren’t really enjoying yourself, or feeling your best, the same applies. I believe wholeheartedly that’s part of why I’m not one of the top selling waitresses at work anymore. I don’t desire to sell people baked potatoes loaded with butter, cheese, bacon, and sour cream. I don’t desire to sell people that perfect margarita and fuel the possible alcohol addiction of someone else. I don’t want to sell that 200+ calorie beverage that is going to help contribute to the weight gain of someone or likely another negative impact on their health. I don’t believe in the product, but that doesn’t mean I won’t make the dining experience the best that I can. I’m not going to say that I’ve become a top Coach, or that I am a perfect example, but striving to do better every day has given me a joy that is deeper and more meaningful than any of that. I hope that it beams out for others to see.

That’s where being winsome comes in, smiling, loving, sharing, caring, being honest, supportive, the listening ear, just being present can be all that someone needs. Striving to be our best can sometimes lead to neglecting others needs. That’s something I’ve learned to be better at as a Coach. The small things, sharing the struggles, the strengths, the journey, are all part of being winsome.

The definition of winsome is; attractive or appealing in appearance or character. And I think that living genuinely brings out that light. Trying to please others, instead of the innate Spirit within us, drags us down. I can personally testify to that 100 percent. ❤

Finding Balance

There was a lot of talk about finding personal joy and also not being selfish. Those things require balance, it is said that giving is the best gift. Which is true, helping someone and seeing the joy on their face is so rewarding. BUT as a mother, I know that sometimes we give so much and neglect ourselves. We have to find the balance of making sure that we are happy and healthy so that we can be able to do our best giving to our children, families, friends and even strangers. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, don’t be afraid to communicate it, don’t be afraid to take some time for yourself to reflect and find out what it is that you need for happiness. Deciding what character you want to put out to the world can help you decide that.